I read a post on CafeMom that shocked me today. The woman was upset because she was walking through a parking lot with her daughter and husband when a car, driving too fast, narrowly missed hitting her daughter. The woman proceeded to yell “F—-ing slow down” at which time the driver said “F— you and your n—er husband” (racial slur). Apparently this woman was more upset about the racial comment made than the fact the woman almost hit her daughter.

I was a claims adjuster for Travelers Insurance in the auto department for about 2 years, and I was a manager for them for a couple of years after that, so believe me I have seen some of the strangest things happen involving cars and people. However, the most damaging things that happened relating to a car accidents was usually the reaction to the accident – not the accident itself. The reality of the situation is the cars are just hunks of metal and electricity. They will be repaired to their original condition and go on to other owners, other towns, and perhaps even other countries and no one will ever be able to tell the damage that has been done.

However, the people involved in the accident are not so lucky. They will most likely never forget what happened in the blink of an eye. If there are injuries, perhaps you will never walk or talk the same for the rest of your life. If someone died, it is only natural to wonder why. If you are the responsible party, most likely you will never look at your children and loved ones the same knowing that it could have been them.

Christmas time is upon us. You will be stressed. You may get cut off in traffic. You may have a desperate mother rip a much desired toy out of your hand at ToysRUs. Santa may not give you what you want for Christmas… he might not even visit your house this year. In the big scheme of things, do these things matter? I am sure most of you would say no… however I am sure we can all think of a time when our reaction showed the world differently.

So, spend a little more time with family and friends, and a little less time driving around for the perfect present. Spend a little more time with the Lord and a little less time yelling at your kids. Spend a little more time acting, and a little less time reacting. You just might be surprised how merry this Christmas can be.