I’ve started to notice Monkey really pays attention, remembers and counts on the words that are spoken to her.Â If you say you love her, she takes that to heart.Â If you tell her your disappointed, she’s crushed.Â Words can literally mold the day Monkey will have.
On one hand, this is a good thing.Â We’ve been raising her to have a good appreciation for the power that words contain.Â On the other, not so much.
Just when she was starting to recover from the other situation, she had a couple of other things flare up.Â In one situation, she was told all of the kids were going to do something they were not supposed to do, then they counted down, and no one did but her and they all laughed.Â This one broke my heart.Â I know it’s just kids being kids, but to set her up like that was a bit disheartening.Â She didn’t seem to mind all that much, and was more upset about the second thing that happened that night: basically one of the little ones thought it would be funny to tell Monkey she had to buy them presents with her allowance, or they would just take the money.
Do I think these kids are doing horrible things?Â Absolutely not.Â But, it has revealed to me that there’s a gap in our guidance.Â Some where along the way, our teachings did not provide her the tools needed to deal with kids who have a different sense of humor.
I’m left a little baffled.Â On one hand, she carries so much more confidence than I ever did (and sometimes do!).Â She’s smart and funny and it seems like the kids at school generally like her and see the same.Â She seems to like most of them, and almost every day gets in the car and tells me she had an awesome day.Â She tells me about the kids she’s played with, and other parents have told me numerous times that she’s always happy and playing with different kids. Â So when she’s left with such a gaping hole in her social interaction, I am not sure how to help … or if I do even need to help.
We did some role playing in which I tried to convince her to do things she knew she shouldn’t.Â Things that were breaking the rules, things that would be funny at someone’s expense, etc. and she seemed to really get it, and even came up with things to say to me and was confident in walking away when I wouldn’t take no for an answer.
But is that enough?Â Right now they have little people problems.Â They tug on my heart strings, but I am thankful that God is revealing these things now instead of when she’s a bit older and tries meth because ‘everyone is doing it’.
I suppose only time will tell if these things are enough, but for right now I am really focused on making sure my words build her up, and I show her how much I trust her decisions.Â However, any ideas any of you lovely readers have for me, please give me a shout out.